Photo provided by: @XKittyKaylyn
Good morning everyone! How are we all doing today? Happy Hump Day! It’s the middle of the week, and we wanted to check up on you, how has your week been? If you have any problems or any issues or delays that are happening in your life right now, just know that you are not alone. You will figure things out. Maybe not today, but sooner than you think. Just don’t give up!
To start your day and shed some light, we have Kaylyn @XKittyKaylyn from Singapore to share with us her personal experiences and stories revolving around the topic of hosiery and lingerie.
Kaylyn caught our attention after seeing how much confidence she exudes in each and every post she has on her social media. She is currently pursuing a degree in Arts Management at LASALLE College of the Arts who also happens to have a wide range of experience in PR and marketing due to being in the spotlight at Singapore’s bustling city nightlife. During Kaylyn’s spare time, she finds herself most relaxed when boosting her creativity through music and the arts. Some of her favorite things to do are: doodling, dancing, and DJing. She currently is being mentored by a renowned Singaporean DJ, DJ Dash @DJDashSG.
Not only does Kaylyn spend her time doing all these things, but, she is also an inspirational figure who shares strong views of female empowerment, womanhood, and body-positivity. In this interview with Kaylyn, one striking thought that has been embedded on to our minds, is the notion of being objectified as a woman simply because of sharing photos that are deemed “suggestive” and “revealing.” She combats this idea by standing up to her own right stating, “I may be open and ‘public’, but it doesn’t give you the right to objectify me, because this is MY body and MY life, and my choices and actions don’t give you the right to harm me in any way.”
To learn more about this inspirable and admirable figure from Singapore, the challenges women deal with on a day-to-day basis, being overly-sexualized, and her thoughts on women to be able to flaunt their beauty without getting any backlash for it, read on!
Interview with the inspirational Singaporean DJ and creative @XKittyKaylyn
LECHERY: First of all, thank you so much for giving us the opportunity to interview you! It is such a pleasure to have you here with us (virtually) of course haha! Let’s first start off by telling us a little bit more about yourself. What do you do?
KAYLYN: Hello and thank YOU for choosing to interview me! I’m from Singapore and pursuing my degree in Arts Management at LASALLE College of the Arts. I’ve had plenty of PR and marketing experience due to working in the events, entertainment and nightlife industry in Singapore and it’s thus become my passion – alongside the arts, of course! In my free time, I enjoy doodling, reading, writing, and playing darts with my friends! I have some theatre and dance background too, and I’m currently a freelance DJ who’s only been around for a couple of months at the time of this interview. I’m really your typical “Jack of all trades, master of none”!
LECHERY: We see that you're into hosiery and lingerie, what got you into posting hosiery and lingerie? Tell us more about it.
KAYLYN: I’ve always felt it unfair how, even today, there are plenty of double standards across the genders. Why should women be forced to stay in the shadows, and why shouldn’t we be allowed to be proud of ourselves, and the way we look and feel? I may not have the prettiest face or the loveliest body shape, but I believe everyone has something about them that’s worth flaunting. I might have gotten some flak for sharing “suggestive” images of myself to public spaces (i.e. social media), but if I personally think I look and feel okay, there’s no need for me to hide. A caption – which is actually a quote from Megan Fox – I used in one of my posts on Instagram goes, “I just really want it at some point to be okay for women and young girls to be sexy because I think that’s a power, a gift that we were given by God or the universe or whatsoever.” This goes back to my earlier point of trying to keep women away from the public eye; a topless male model gets plenty of positive remarks but the same can’t be said for a female posing in lingerie: either she gets overly-sexualised or she has to deal with hurtful and/or derogatory remarks. I actually don’t have a lot of self-confidence myself, but I still do such photoshoots and share some of the photos to my Instagram anyway because I want everyone out there to know there is beauty in ALL of us, and that it is okay for women, especially, to embrace and be open about their sexuality. It’s also my subtle way of telling some men that yes, I may be open and ‘public’, but it doesn’t give you the right to objectify me, because this is MY body and MY life, and my choices and actions don’t give you the right to harm me in any way.
LECHERY: What does lingerie mean to you? Does it give you confidence? Or is it just something you wear to give an added extra sex appeal? How do you feel when wearing lingerie?
KAYLYN: Although I struggle with self-esteem issues, there have definitely been times when I put on a fancy set, look at myself in the mirror and be amazed – because being nearly naked does make you look at yourself in different angles. Sure, I notice some dark marks and scars here and there, but I also sometimes manage to see how one particular set brings out my features, or how another set complements the tattoos I have, and so on. I think these moments of self-love are very important, especially in a digitalised society today where beauty standards have been raised ridiculously high. It is easy to feel demoralised when scrolling through social media and looking at how long this girl’s legs are, or how curvy another girl is, and so on; but in the mirror, there is no Photoshop/Lightroom/BeautyCam/Mei Tu Xiu Xiu. There’s no editing or reshaping of your body/face shape; it’s raw, it’s real, it’s you, and that’s why lingerie – and such photoshoots – mean something to me. Before the photographer does any form of editing to the photos, browsing through the raw files can definitely help you look at yourself differently, and notice things about yourself you never knew you had. It doesn’t even have to be something physical, it could even be in the way you smile, or that sensual way you look into the lens of the camera.
LECHERY: What is the perfect pair of hosiery for you?
KAYLYN: I really like the way I look and feel in garters, stockings, and thigh-highs/knee socks! I used to cosplay a lot, so I still have several of these items lying around in my closet.
LECHERY: Have you ever had a negative experience with a pair of hosiery you have bought? And what brands would you avoid buying from?
KAYLYN: So far, I’d like to think I’m rather lucky in terms of shopping for hosiery/lingerie. The only issues would be the usual wear-and-tear, or the various unfortunate accidents (e.g. pantyhose running) one may usually have to deal with. I also don’t have a particular brand which I go to or avoid; if I like it and I like the way I look in it, I’ll buy it!
LECHERY: What do you hope to find in the hosiery and lingerie industry in the future?
KAYLYN: I hope that the future of lingerie/hosiery can be revolutionised to make EVERY woman feel beautiful and empowered. People come in all forms, and every woman should be allowed to feel beautiful in their own naturalness. Women should not have to shy away from buying lingerie or hosiery, or even be afraid to show themselves on social media just because they don’t look a “certain” way.
LECHERY: What type of hosiery should every girl have in their closet?
KAYLYN: Personally, I like lace as it is feminine and sexy. Garters and stockings are also classic pieces that can easily spice up your outfits.
LECHERY: What is one thing you would always wear that would make you feel much more confident and sexy? What is your advice to other women who struggle with confidence and body-image?
KAYLYN: A sincere smile. Very clichéd, but it’s true. As I said earlier, I don’t have the prettiest face on the planet or the hottest body around, but I really think ‘sexy’ is not just about how a person looks; it is an attitude, it is how you feel. If a woman is confident, she’s sexy. If a woman can stand up for herself when necessary, or show that she is a “boss babe”, she’s sexy. There are so many ways I can define this, but the most important thing to note is that beauty is truly only skin-deep, whereas attitude is down to the bone. I’m sure no one would want to be friends with or even date someone stunningly beautiful who turns heads wherever she goes, yet is rude and impolite to a waiter in a restaurant. I’m no saint, but I personally never judge people by their appearances alone, and I think everyone else should too. Nowadays though, it’s easy to neglect these points with social media and images of other people(who are “better-looking than me”) being so easily accessible to basically anyone across the globe. However, if the whole world was blind, how many people would you impress? Thus, I always tell myself that it’s a must to be a good person both on and off social media; don’t let fancy images and/or videos fool you too much! It is also important to stay true to yourself, be kind, don’t be afraid to be who you are; and your beauty in its own special entirety will definitely shine through.
LECHERY: Describe lingerie to you in three words:
KAYLYN: Unique, sassy, bodacious.
LECHERY: It is a really tough time in today's world with the whole COVID-19 pandemic going on, what have you been doing to keep yourself busy and healthy?
KAYLYN: I’ve been reading and learning new things online! If there is one good thing about this pandemic, it’s that it helped me realise the hunger for knowledge will keep you resilient, and also increases your adaptability to any sudden changes in the world. I’ve also been trying to improve my DJing skills and discovering new music, and I recently worked on a collaborative mixtape with my mentor (DJ Dash of Singapore), which was a fun and refreshing experience! That aside, being Asian, I was subject to several racist remarks about “being the virus” or “you stupid Chinese” and so on, and it unfortunately seems like I am not the only one facing such issues, so I’ve also been praying every day for things to be better all across the world, and that people will learn to be kinder to one another and not hold so much blank anger/hatred in their hearts (as I wrote in one of my Instagram posts, racism must stop with us). We’re all in this together!
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